Adult Diapers Should Not Make You Guilty

This week's message is on something that all of us AB/DLs have felt. That feeling is guilt. I remember when I was a kid I used to enjoy diapers and then after it was over I felt guilty. A lot of it has to do with the first lesson we ever learned. That lesson is Potty Training. The guilt we feel stems from a subconscious desire to appease our parents. Potty training is intense. Some techniques almost border on brainwashing. Only in the past 10 years has child psychologists recognised this and have taken a relaxed approach to training. Basically we have an opposing dynamic. Our hearts desire love from our parents. Our bodies desire physical comfort - for example a hug. In our case these desires opposed one another. Now if we are to appease our parents and society(religions and governments), it makes simple sense that we will do what they say and expect comfort/reward from our obedience. It is like a child who wants praise for going in the potty. It is a system based on works alone. It is my belief that the infantilist who develops this condition during childhood has not had the emotional comfort that he or she required, otherwise, why desire something you already have?

So the self actualized solution is that we solve our own comfort problem when comfort is lacking; even if it opposes our assumptions about the reward/comfort system. If our parents don't give us the attention we feel we need, we must make up for it somehow. That goes into another question our hearts might have - how do I get comfort? Does comfort from any physical attention or is it from objects that are comfortable? Man, blessed be the extrovert, for all will know his psyche. In such a situation an extrovert will do things to get any kind of attention, even bad things as long as someone notices them (ex. bullies). Introverts on the other hand are stuck trying to get comfort without asking for it. That is when diapers come into play.

I've analyzed this. How in the world do kids know that diapers are comfortable? The first thing we consciously learn is that they should feel yucky and only babies wear diapers cause they are yucky. I convinced a friend to wear diapers one time and he said they didn't feel comfortable to him. So how did we subconsciously decide that diapers were comfortable before we ever wore them? I can't answer it completely. The answer is too complex. Commercials, memories, influences, visual, auditory sensations, smells, experiences, our own sensitivities. All of these things in a certain combination will lead a child to believe that diapers are comfortable. And once the child experiences diapers firsthand their perceptions can become reality. It is a reverse potty training psychology. If something is believed to be true, even before experiencing it, it will become true in the person's mind. Even if the belief is opposite of the reality. However it takes such a strong belief in the opposite dynamic that infantilism rarely occurs. Thus there are only around 15,000 known ABDLs in the English speaking computer using world.

Now we have given a basis for the two opposing factors that cause guilt from infantilism: parental/societal appeasement vs our own appeasement of lack of comfort. Ok, lets be real here. Many people still feel guilt. It is so embedded in our psyches that we naturally feel guilty just because we feel we are wronging society or God by not going in the potty. I have successfully gotten rid of my guilt feelings because I had to come to some conclusions:

1. I deserve to be comfortable just because I am human.
2. Society and Parents cannot give me the comfort I need.
3. I must accept that I am different and it is good to be different.
4. Diaper Guilt comes from society and the devil and not God.
5. God forgives all Christian sinners anyways. Jesus Christ was our Guilt Offering.

Now that I have segued into God let's talk about what the Bible says about guilt. The Greek word for guilt is pronounced "Aitia" which means "cause for which one is worthy of punishment, crime". Just by the definition alone we can see that by believing we are crossing the lines of the rational that we are worthy of punishment for just the act of wearing a diaper.

The premise of our guilt is wrong. I know the biblical narratives deal with true guilt, but you have to remember this. Just because you feel guilty does not mean you are guilty. It is a hard distinction to make because sometimes we do feel guilty because of God's natural law put into our hearts:

Romans 2:14 For when Gentiles who do not have the Law do instinctively the things of the Law, these, not having the Law, are a law to themselves, 15 in that they show the work of the Law written in their hearts, their conscience bearing witness and their thoughts alternately accusing or else defending them, 16 on the day when, according to my gospel, God will judge the secrets of men through Christ Jesus.

Now if that passage doesn't make you think that your guilt is true guilt I don't know what will. But now we do have to take a step back. Does our guilt come from God or Man, or even, dare I say it, Satan? Is this true guilt that has no judgement? Meaning, if God were to judge us guilty would it be because we think we are guilty of a sin, or we actually are guilty of the sin.

We can control our conscience. We can control our hearts. The same way you accepted Jesus Christ into your life. The same way you love God and changed your heart for him. That is the same way you can accept into your heart your diaper wearing and receive physical peace and comfort by God's grace. I said earlier that the just because you feel guilty does not mean you are guilty. Here is the kicker, that is only true in an esoteric sense. Our God is god of the heart. If you feel guilty - you are guilty. You must remove the guilt. If you decide to continue wearing diapers, STOP FEELING GUILTY ABOUT IT. For if you do not stop feeling guilty you will be judged by it. Your own conscience will accuse you of a sin. If you change your ways and stop feeling guilty then your own conscience will defend your diaper wearing.

So how do you stop feeling guilty? We feel guilty because of one thing - we recieved earthly judgement from ourselves or someone else. So if you want to remove guilt, stop judging yourself and stop making people's judgements of you feel guilty. Memorize the following verse and bring it up whenever you feel guilty. Eventually you will stop feeling guilty and be humbled at the grace and glory of God through Jesus Christ. It is one thing to feel guilty. It is another thing to be freed from all sin. Simply because this freedom removes all judgement and guilt from our life. In the end those things that we cling to that are of this earth, like diapers, will burn in fire and will be wiped away from history. So why worry?

1 Corinthians 4:3 But it is a small thing to me that I am judged by you or by man's judging; I am not even a judge of myself.


A Great Bible Study on Guilt
http://www.calvaryag.org/bstudy/counsel/misc/guilt_over_the_past.htm